My second child and our first daughter, Camille, died and was born on June, 30 2011 when I was full term at 38 weeks pregnant. I gave birth to my rainbow baby, a second daughter, on August 31, 2012. This is me trying to figure out how to be a mother to my living son and daughter and function in society after our tragic loss.
I haven't posted in a while. Not for lack of things to say, I have plenty going on... I have a couple pictures from Kai's third birthday party I will share. He really is amazing, he keeps me grounded and somewhat focused. I am not sure how I would be coping if I didn't have him. Anyway, Kai has this book entitled Miss Spiders Tea Party, Every time we read the book he says "I want to have my friends over for cake and tea" We drink tea in our home and eat scones and so I said, how about we do that for your birthday party? He was really excited about this. His invitations said "Mr. Kai is Turning 3, Please Come and Have Some Tea.
I tried to "boy it up" by adding plastic bugs and bike and scooter riding time outside. All the kids seemed to have a good time. I "attempted to do 2 organized games...1. Pin the tea cup on the saucer game 2. tea bag toss into the tea cup. both I would generally consider as failures but considering we are dealing with kids 1.5-3.5 I think it was rather successful. I now understand why parents choose a themed party where they can buy pre-made items and call it good, but being a crafty wanna-be I spent HOURS drawing a Miss Spider, and sewing tea bags made out of burlap and beans with little tea tags on them. I read them the story and explained the game but the children generally did not want to wear a blindfold (especially my kid cuz he was being a wanker), Then the children ripped off the tags on the tea bags before the toss game even began....HOURS .....down the drain haha. I think the party went well....maybe a baseball theme next year...lets see how complicated I can make that. :)